Tag: Anxiety

About confusion…

Everyone nowadays posts either on Twitter or Facebook that they like positive vibes, how leading a great life filled with positive energy will bring success and happiness. I encounter people daily who say that they are all about this new era of what “The Secret” and other inspiring book have taught us.

 But when it comes to walking the walk, they come back astonished that things do not go their way that they are tired of the negative, they don’t want failure, they don’t want more of the same.
It took me 6 whole months to re-train my brain and my thoughts. It is very easy to say these things, to quote books and to like the whole idea, but it is not the same to actually focus and make things happen to you. This is what I call confusion. There is no magic potion that will solve anyone’s problems or make anyone’s dreams reality. You have to work for it.
Train your thoughts to “speak a new language”. Forget words like “I don’t want”, “I don’t like”, “I hate this”, in other words, forget any sentence that starts with a negative.
Instead try re-learning a brain grammar that always starts with: “I want”, “I like”, “I love”.
This is the first step. In the beginning it will seem like an enormous task, but as time goes on, it will come automatic. Remember that “What you think about, you bring about” and that the universe does not speak in human grammar terms. If you keep saying “I don’t want to be broke”, guess what? You’ll be broke because you focus on that sentiment.

I speak from my own experience.  As soon as I truthfully let everything go, as soon as I completely relaxed my thoughts, things started happening so fast that at first I thought that it was a fluke. No, it was no fluke. It was actually happening. Thoughts like “struggle”, “can barely make it”, “I am tired”, “I don’t know what I want”, “I don’t know how to solve this or the other problem” were left behind and now, I cringe simply writing them.
I started thinking: “easy”, “have plenty of what I want”, “I have abundance all around me”.
I wake up every day thanking the universe for everything that I have, and everything that I am.  I walk smiling, I say hello to people that cross my path and I see their reactions. They pause for a second and then they actually smile and return the greeting.

My business is flourishing, I feel healthy, happy and fulfilled.
A trick I personally used was a mental list of wants and needs.  You will be amazed at how small the list of needs is when you are honest and truthful.  Another thing is giving back to your community, to your friends, to your significant other. This thought frightens a lot of people when they come from a needy point of view. You don’t have to give money; you can simply help a friend, make a meal for someone you care about, call friends and family, and send a nice thank you note. Little things go a long way.

If it is your business that you are struggling with, sit back, relax and see yourself as successful. Don’t laugh! It really works. See obstacles like life’s traffic lights. The universe always guides us if we are willing to give it an honest try and listen.

So, open your hearts and minds, do not criticize others, absorb what is going on around you and be thankful. Be really thankful every single day. Live in the moment and make it count!

Second Chances, or Not

It is a really delicate matter to find the clients you want, get to know their needs, and actually do what they want.
Most of the people who will actually ask for your professional help are very busy, and most of the time so overwhelmed that they don’t know what they really want, where to begin and how to convey their needs to you.

Most feel like everything needs to be done all at once, others tell you they need one thing and you actually end up doing something totally different. Here is where your patience comes into play. You have to remember that this is strictly business and nothing personal. If you let your personal emotions get into your task, then you will lose focus and will feel miserable.
Take every task as it comes your way, try to let your client know how things are done without being rude, or sounding frustrated. It takes time to change people’s attitudes, it takes a master to change them into organized and calm beings.

Their state of mind is in panic and you have to prove that you know what you are doing at all times. If for example you are hired to oversee or organize an event, (a wedding, a corporate party etc) you have to be on your toes 24/7. This is because your client has a rough idea of what it is they want, but a myriad of unforeseen factors come in between.

Create a master plan, divide it into smaller sections and update every section daily.
An example: You are hired for a company’s Christmas party.
Your master plan: Create a questionnaire to cover every aspect.
Then, create files for each part of the event. For example: guest list, band or music, decorations, catering

It is easier than you think. Being organized and always have a plan B is crucial. Also, make sure to hand out business cards to the guests, the band, the dj, the caterer. Word of mouth is the best advertisement for your services.
Second chances do not come often, if ever. Once you finish your task and everything goes well, you will definitely get a second chance, in other words you will definitely be re-hired by this client.

Another aspect of this topic, is if you are willing to give a second chance to a client who is really unreliable, flaky, doesn’t want to pay you on time, tries to cut your payment down. Be strong, make sure that if you decide to give  someone a financial break it has to have some caveats. For instance, “I will give you a break if you refer more clients to me”, or “I will give you a break for the first month and then I need to be paid my normal fee”. Don’t be shy, you are a business.
As your client demands to get paid their salary, their income from their boss, their fee from something they sell, the same way you need to establish some boundaries. If the client does not want to adhere, then fine, you can let someone go. Do not cling to a bad client for dear life.
Times are difficult, but never so difficult that we should make our lives miserable for a few dollars!

Respect who you are, respect yourself, respect what you have to offer, respect your client. Believe me you will get every ounce of respect back. A tiny percentage might not agree or see eye to eye with you. It’s ok. Let it go.