Tag: New York Times

Gratitude and Ego

Personal growth goes a very long way.
A lot of people get stuck behind their ego, never move on in life, “hate” situations and never forgive and forget. They keep carrying grudges, filter the world around them through a warped lens, and live in a very definite space that makes them unhappy whether they realize it or not.
In the business and career world, personal has absolutely nothing to do with professional. Good manners, positive attitude, leaving ego aside, does not even come to the picture for those people.

Imagine landing the job of your dreams, and still feeling miserable because the whole world is against you, or so you think. This affects your performance, your communication with colleagues, bosses, team members and believe it or not your own family.
It is really so simple to live and let live, to let go. The past can only serve as lessons learned. If we use the past to dictate our attitude toward life and people around us, all we can do eventually is lose everything.

Our journey on this planet is minuscule. Before we know it, life passes and we are stuck in our 60’s, 70’s and live in regret.

I will ask one question that I kept asking in the seminars I used to teach: Someone calls you stupid. You hear the sound that these words make. Do you let it get in? Does this define who you know you are?

Your “person” your “ego” do not belong in any equation. Neither in your professional, nor in your private life.

Every human being is different, makes mistakes, learns, and moves on. By getting glued on what ifs, on past situations that can no longer be changed, on grudges, you only hurt yourself and take others down with you.

Conclusion: Live every moment in harmony, see others for who they are, never judge, never assume and never be passive aggressive. Neither your career nor your life can become better.

Last question: Which is better? Living a miserable lonely life, or being part of this huge community that is called life, enjoy all the curves and ups and downs, and keep going. Fall in bed every night knowing that you have given the world and those around you the very darn best that you can EVERY SINGLE DAY!

This will only give you back loyal friends, colleagues, a happy family and great success at everything that you do.


Quackmail: Why You Shouldn’t Fall For The Internet’s Newest Fool, The Food Babe.

I had to share this article, because we all fall prey to so-called “insiders” and “experts” who claim they know everything, but in the end confuse the public even more.

Article, courtesy of: http://www.forbes.com/sites/trevorbutterworth/2014/06/16/quackmail-why-you-shouldnt-fall-for-the-internets-newest-fool-the-food-babe/

She made the front page of the Financial Times as the blogger who humbled Big Food and whose latest campaign for transparency in beer ingredients left “The King of Beers,” Anheuser Busch InBev, and close running rival SabMiller clamoring like Neville Chamberlain to appease a bully. “The rapid response by AB InBev and SABMiller—which capitulated to Ms Hari’s demands within 36 hours—underscores the growing power of social media over corporate policy,” wrote the FT’s Consumer Industries Editor, Scheherazade Daneshkhu.

Ironically, one of the key factoids in blogger Vani Hari—aka, “The Food Babe’s”—attack on Big Beer was that they “even use fish swim bladders” to make their product without putting this self-evidently dodgy fact on the label; the implication is that beer should not from fish bladder be made. Yet, isinglass—as dried fish bladder is Tolkienesquely called—has been used to clarify beer, wine and liquor since the early 18th century, and its manufacture was widespread in Colonial America (a versatile compound, it was also mixed with gin and used as a glue to repair broken china). While this may cause vegans to pause before a draught, isinglass has been used and consumed without incident for centuries. Continue reading “Quackmail: Why You Shouldn’t Fall For The Internet’s Newest Fool, The Food Babe.”

Avoid tech support phone scams

Avoid tech support phone scamsThis happened to me today, and because I am very vigilant, I hung up on them. Here is the article from Microsoft’s own site:

Cybercriminals don’t just send fraudulent email messages and set up fake websites. They might also call you on the telephone and claim to be from Microsoft. They might offer to help solve your computer problems or sell you a software license. Once they have access to your computer, they can do the following: Continue reading “Avoid tech support phone scams”

Is telecommuting dead? Don’t count on it, experts say

Another interesting article I had to share with you all: Is telecommuting dead? Don't count on it, experts say

When Yahoo relayed to its employees that they could no longer work remotely, one of the reasons given was that “speed and quality are often sacrificed when we work from home.”

It may seem logical – the internal Yahoo memo leaked to The Wall Street Journal’s AllThingsD.com said that some of the “best decisions and insights come from hallway and cafeteria discussions” – but workplace experts say that may not be true.

“Telecommuting is associated with significantly higher levels of job satisfaction, lower turnover intentions, reduced role stress, and higher supervisor-ratings of job performance,” said Washington State University psychology professor Tahira Probst via email.  Continue reading “Is telecommuting dead? Don’t count on it, experts say”

When comments are welcome and when not…

when comments are welcome and when not...Don’t you feel compelled to just voice your opinion or comment on something at work or in your day-to-day life?
There is a welcome way to do this but also there is a way that will simply irk others and might put you in an awkward position.
There are people who think they are pragmatists, who think that adding a comment to any situation, “helps” the other person. This is not true at all. Let’s see some examples:

You go to a restaurant opening, you congratulate the new owners and immediately add, “I hope you know that this area has no business at all during the summer months. You must have some guts to open a business here”. Continue reading “When comments are welcome and when not…”

Wishing is different than doing!

star141Most of the people I meet, are in “The Secret” frenzy, in positive thinking, in submitting to the fates.
Meditation, praying, visualizing, positive thinking, are all great and do work if you know how to use those tools. Simply sending positive thoughts out “there” and believing that some supreme being will bring it to you is wrong.
If you REALLY want to have food at your table, you have to work HARD to get it. Continue reading “Wishing is different than doing!”

What if you are underpaid for what you offer…..

A very common sentiment these days. I have spoken to a lot of people and most of them say, NO I would never ask for a raise, for I might lose my job.

I have this to say: If the people who have hired you disrespect your job performance so much, then if they let you go simply because you have asked for a raise, they don’t deserve you. Every solid company should reconsider your salary once a year.  Part of the discussion when you are hired should be future raises and the maximum that you can eventually get to. Continue reading “What if you are underpaid for what you offer…..”

Bad Customer Service, is Bad for Your Business

I have been coaching, and teaching for many years. I have seen some great companies, some good ones and some horrible ones. By horrible, I don’t mean the people. I mean the company structure, their philosophy, their setup in general. A company’s image is set by the company’s owner/s.

I decided to write this post, after an extremely weird experience I had lately with  a company that sells fashion jewelry and goes into amazing lengths to advertize on social media. I found the product line interesting, so I decided to order a ring. Their prices are really cheap.

So, I went to their website, placed my order and received an email that promised shipping within 3 business days. 9 days later, I log in to their site again, (by the way their site stated that it was down during these 9 days), and find my order which states still processing. At that point I go to their Facebook page and write a complain. Guess what? They deleted it. That was my first red flag.I read many similar complaints on their page, which were unanswered too. One page fan even dared them to delete their complaint.

Then I proceeded to email the company asking about my shipping. I waited another three days, to receive a canned response. I had paid via PayPal, so I started a non-receipt claim, to which NOBODY from the company even blinked to post a response. Finally my ring arrived 3 weeks later.

So here is my advice to the company’s owners:
1. When you get paid for the goods that you sell, you absolutely HAVE to adhere to your written promises.
2. You MUST train your customer service department.
3. Your business’s success depends on returning customers. Being dismissive and plainly deleting posts and disregarding complaints, you say to the world that you don’t care.
4. In this worldwide competitive business and social media’s power, word gets out faster than you can blink and if you continue to treat unsatisfied customers this way, your business will not go very far.
5. Be open minded. Learn from the complaints you receive. Strive to be the best that you can EVERY SINGLE DAY.
6. It is not ALL about the money. INTEGRITY, HONESTY, GREAT CUSTOMER SERVICE & WORD OF MOUTH make or break a company.






Holidays are around the corner

November is already here and with it starts a frenzy of spending.

This is a very good time to budget your expenses, because most of my clients come to me wide eyed after the Holidays asking themselves where all the money went. We tend to forget that the year comes to an end and we need to prepare for taxes. Do you have all your ducks in a row?

I have talked about creating a budget in the past. If you haven’t done so, PLEASE start now. Make sure that you are out of debt! If you have consumer debt (credit cards, store cards, etc.) get creative about the upcoming Holidays. Expensive gifts are not going to help you with your debt, and don’t show how much you love your friends and family.
Start simply with an excel sheet, write down ALL your monthly expenses and include your credit card debt payments.
On the next column write down what you bring in every month. Subtract expenses from income and see what you have left.

If there is nothing left, then you have to set some goals and get rid of your debt as fast as possible. Wait to do some basic shopping after Thanksgiving, when prices are at their best.
Make a very conservative list of people you NEED to buy presents for. If you have kids, they don’t need 20 presents each. They can do with 2. Don’t fall for the social pressure trap, and never compare your situation with others. Everyone has their own financial situation and never forget that we create our situation.

Make these Holidays simple, happy and surrounded only by people that truly matter. You can absolutely decline invitations that do not mean anything more than more expenses, and that are not surrounded by friends.

I have cut my list down to 8 people. Everyone else, like colleagues, social acquaintances, my hair and nail salon people etc., will be very happy to receive a small package of cookies or a cake that you baked. You can easily find cheap festive baking pans in your local super market, and simply bake something. The cost of this will only thank your wallet.

I will be posting more ideas as the days go by. Have a great November, and remember! Good finances give you absolute freedom from stress and anxiety.